Throughout these texts I do notice a theme of female instruction. The author's are trying to tell women how to behave and how smart they should be.
In Alphonzo's "An ADDRESS to the LADIES" he instructs the women to not be too extreme either way in education and behavior. He expresses his idea for the "ideal" woman, but it isn't that simple. Having to strive to be perfect is not easy, and that is exactly what Alphonzo is proposing that women should do.
For example, he instructs women not to be too prude or too slutty. He says that when dating a woman should be careful because "prudery and coquetry are extremes equally to be shunned." This creates a problem though because what is considered too much and too little? There is so much pressure on women to figure it out and it is basically impossible.
He also emphasizes education, but instructs women to be careful about getting too smart. He says that becoming educated is a good thing for a job, but if you want a relationship then you must be careful. He explains that men are proud and want to feel smarter than women. He says it is a turn off for a woman to be too smart. He also discusses what a woman should read. He says women should only be reading good literature. Once again he is showing the extreme bad and good going on. These poor woman are being encouraged to be smart but not too smart, and flirty but not too slutty.
Also, many of the texts talk about the females being the seducers and bringing things upon themselves. In "For the GENTLEMEN and LADIES", Mr. Orlander talks about the "alluring smiles of those seducers of thy female excellence." He talks about how women draw men in and bring it upon themselves.
In addition, in "COPY of a LETTER from Miss--- to Mr.---" "Eliza" talks about how a woman's reputation is their most valuable attribution. Now I don't think a woman really wrote this, but I think it is a good example of instructing women's behavior and showing the "ideal" woman. The text talks about how women should beware of ruining their reputation and watch every move they make. Unfortunately it isn't fair for women because the text says that is doesn't matter if you really lose your virtue because if people think you do then you are in just as much trouble.
I think throughout these texts it is unfortunate for women because there is such a double standard and the "ideal" woman is impossible to achieve. Women are encouraged to be educated, but not too educated. As far as behavior you are damned if you do and damned if you don't.